• Self assuredness: I’ll have what she has

    Monday, January 25, 2021 Permalink

    I’ve talked in the past about the difference between envy and jealousy and I tend to think the former feels less negative or nasty than the latter.

    Recently however I’ve been pondering something in between. Not quite envy, but a wistfulness about something someone else does or has that we wish we did.

    I get that ‘I’ll have what she has’ feeling about a few people.

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  • Out on the water

    Monday, January 18, 2021 Permalink

    It’s very weird that I’m so averse to the beach – by which I mean the ocean, sand and sun – because I love being out on the water.

    I think there’s some kind of selective memory thing happening because I forget [that] until I’m out there. And some of my favourite memories over recent years feature boat trips.

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  • A holiday or a break from oneself?

    Thursday, January 14, 2021 Permalink

    I’ve talked about this before. A year or two after my seachange I joked about the idea of going on holiday to some nice apartment in a coastal town somewhere, when—in fact—I lived in a nice apartment on the beach in a coastal town. Of course I’m not ‘right’ on the beach now, but have my beach views so many would opt for my house as a holiday destination.

    Location aside, it occurs to me the whole idea of a holiday is kinda ironic. I mean, isn’t it?

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  • New sneakers. Who dis?

    Monday, January 11, 2021 Permalink

    I have new sneakers. I know that’s not a big deal for most people. Indeed once it wouldn’t have been for me either. When I was a regular gym-goer and exerciser I used to get new sneakers (aka: sandshoes, runners, joggers) each year. I was – back then – a Nike addict so the brand was usually a no-brainer and often I had several pairs, cross-trainers for sport or gym classes; and running shoes for… well for walking.

    Regular readers would know however that my exercise regime has been sporadic over the last decade (or two). When I’m on a fitness roll – as I was before my seachange – I attended gym classes 4-5 days a week. And sometimes walked as well.

    Of course since then, I’ve basically done SFA.

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  • Starting the new year with a splutter

    Monday, January 4, 2021 Permalink

    So much for starting the new year with a bang. First I published an overly-dramatic post about food and my weight. Then I accidentally got sunburnt when visiting the local pool for a friend’s birthday celebrations. (A no-no for me as my father ultimately died as a result of skin cancer. Sort of.)

    But, as this morning rolled around and those gainfully employed prepared to return to work, I decided I’d start the year afresh and on a positive note. My university break was over and I’d already done the reading required for the coming week. I was due to head back to my over 50s exercise classes and my clothes were laid out ready.

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  • If 2020 was a Christmas Tree

    Wednesday, December 23, 2020 Permalink

    Anyone who knows me knows I’m very bah-humbug about Christmas. I’m not Scrooge-like exactly but the entire thing leaves me kinda cold. Perhaps it’s because here in Australia we’re far from the traditional images we see on television of snow and crackling fires. Here – increasingly – Aussies are more about prawns on the BBQ or seafood by the beach.

    As as I’m not big on Christmas food (turkey, plum puddings, or seafood), Easter is my festive season of choice. Cos, well… chocolate. Though I’m not sure Christians would agree, but whatevs.

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  • Life lessons from Palm Springs – the movie

    Sunday, December 6, 2020 Permalink

    I watched Palm Springs (the movie) a couple of days ago. I like Andy Samberg in his role in Brooklyn Nine-Nine but actually had little idea what the movie was about. I figured it to be some sort of rom-com. And it is… kinda. Except with a groundhog day theme activated by some weird phenomenon in a desert cave.

    But if you ignore the mystical element (required if you’re a logic-lover like me who needs to understand how and why) it’s a really enjoyable movie.

    I found however that I was struck by something more profound than I expected from a light romp.

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  • Shame versus guilt

    Thursday, November 26, 2020 Permalink

    Like many I’ve seen Brene Brown’s famous TED talk, watched her Netflix documentary and read a million other things about her shame research.

    Despite this I’ve only just realised I’ve been misconstruing what she means by shame.

    When I’ve thought of shame I’ve thought of BEING ASHAMED. Not being shamed by others, but feeling that way ourselves, akin to embarrassment. And I’ve not really thought it applied to me. However, I now recognise when I talk about feeling guilty – by her definition, I’m actually talking about feeling shame.

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