Worth waking up for

Thursday, June 29, 2017 Permalink

Some time ago I shared one of those self-pitying… ‘everyone needs a reason to get out of bed’ posts. I possibly joked about Vanilla Diet Coke but in essence was having my own little pity party about the fact I was single, childless and no one loved me. (Okay, so maybe that last bit wasn’t true. I have my mum. And friends.)

Like everyone there have been times in my life when I’ve struggled to identify anything to look forward to, or get excited about. However, I’ve made some changes so the overwhelm / dread / sense of purposeless isn’t quite as bad. I’ve quit full-time work, moved, started writing, had weight loss surgery and so forth… but I also have to remind myself that sometimes we need to create those things (worth waking up for) ourselves.Β 

And, last week it occurred to me that I have several things coming up that I was – in fact – looking forward to.

Hearing one of my favourite authors speak

I’m a huge fan of Australian author Michael Robotham. A writing friend and I were talking recently about how much we enjoyed hearing Candice Fox speak (here in Hervey Bay) earlier this year. The friend said she’d also really liked Michael Robotham when she’d heard him speak years earlier. And, as fate would have it, I discovered he was going to be speaking as part of the Maleny Celebration of Books just a couple of hours away in mid July. So, I have my ticket and it’s in my diary.

Going to a writers’ festival

I went to a Romance Readers Convention earlier this year, because I won conference tickets. I still had to pay for accommodation and flights, but I decided to go despite NOT being a huge lover of the ‘romance’ genre (though I do enjoy romantic suspense etc). In my #5before50 list (of things I wanted to do before I turn 50 at the end of the year) I said I wanted to go to a readers / writers festival. It’s the hanging out with like-minded, passionate people thing I enjoy as much as anything. And the nourishment I get from being around them and hearing about others’ work and inspiration.

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So, although it was financially a bit of a stretch for me, I’ve decided to attend the Romance Writers’ of Australia ConferenceΒ in Brisbane in August. IF there was a multiple day crime fiction equivalent, I might have opted for it… but there isn’t. And so many of the people I met at the last convention were so very welcoming, I’m looking forward to seeing them again.

Doing a 10km walk

A friend and I had great plans – at one point – to participate in a 30km Coast Trek. And then we realised it was perhaps a bit ambitious given the lack of time we had for preparation and finding team-mates and so forth. At the time I was planning to buy my Fitbit and needed some encouragement so we both signed up to do the Bridge to Brisbane in Brisbane (surprisingly!!) in late August.

I did it (the B2B) back in 2009 or so and hated the whole thing. The 10km walk itself was fine (though I was a lot fitter then). It was the fact we queued in the middle or nowhere for about 2hrs before we could start walking, waited around several hours after (with no food or shelter) and then queued to get transport back to my place. This year however I gather it starts and finishes at Southbank / in the city Β and I’m thinking of actually booking into a hotel on-site so there’s no pesky early morning travel involved.

Meeting a virtual friend IN REAL LIFE

I have been bloggy / virtual friends with Jo Tracey for about six or so years. Jo and I are the same age and both worked in project management. She took a break from work and started pursuing her writing before I took my redundancy and we skyped when I was struggling to find my place in the world.

We have online chats and still skype from time to time. I think of her as a friend, though we’ve never actually met in real life. This year she moved from Sydney to the Sunshine Coast and I will meet her and see her at all three of the above ‘events’. She’s smart, funny and nice and I really relate to her sense of humour, but what I really admire about Jo is that she’s pursued her passions. I’m all talk but Jo (and a few other bloggy people I know, like Leanne from Deep Fried Fruit) really inspire me. It’s not easy but they bloody well put their minds to something and do it. They do not whinge about the reasons why they don’t do it… which is something I’m wont to do.

I’ve met virtual friends before and the hardest part is usually not calling them by their Twitter handle or online persona (like Debbish). Thankfully Jo / Joanne uses her name, so that’s not gonna be a problem.

In happier news, I’ve realised that’s only July and August taken care of. I must can start planning other exciting treats for the remainder of 2017. Also, I’m back with the Loving’ Life Linky gang, having decided I’ll do at least one personal (non-book) blog post a week.

Do you like having things to look forward to, or do you treasure every day? (#sarcasmalert)
Do you think we need to create those things ourselves rather than rely on someone else to do it for us?

the-lovin-life-linky I’ve joined Leanne from Deep Fried Fruit and some other bloggers to help promote “ageing positively” and the Lovin’ Life mindset across the interwebz. You can link up via any one of us!

The Lovin’ Life Team includes:


42 Comments
  • Jo
    June 29, 2017

    Awwww shucks…I’m looking forward to sharing these things with you too.

  • Lyle
    June 29, 2017

    Sarcasm notwithstanding, I’m one of those irrepressible people who genuinely treasure every day, even though there may be some bits of them which are not pleasurable.

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      Hey there… Did you see the thing I put on Facebook about having a little street library thing in front of my place? I need to check with Council first re permission though!

  • Vanessa
    June 29, 2017

    I don’t have a “thing” to attend this year and it is a bummer. I’m thinking about going to a local Wordcamp conference next month but that’s about all I’ve come up with.

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      I saw that the WordCamp was on. I think Mel Kettle is speaking at it. I suspect you’d see lots of familiar faces there if you went Vanessa and yes… it’s nice to have something like that to look forward to!

  • Amy Andrews
    June 29, 2017

    Thrilled to be catching up with you again in August, Deb!

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      I actually listed a few names in the post originally Amy, headed up by you of course – in terms of those who were very welcoming at the Feb convention – but then I was worried I’d leave someone off so took them out!

  • Glen Donaldson
    June 29, 2017

    Brilliant and uplifting post Deb.
    Favourite word in the whole thing?
    ‘Nourishment’
    Spot on and double fist pump for that one!

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      I think it’s a word that perfectly describe that rejuvenation I feel after being around like-minded people.

  • Sydney Shop Girl
    June 29, 2017

    Great list, Deb! It is so exciting meeting long term blog friends in person.

    SSG xxx

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      Yes very true. I met some at a blogging conference last year and quite a few of my friends are those I’ve met via social media / blogging.

  • jaykkay
    June 29, 2017

    It was nice to see you at the ARRC in February, I commented to you in how I’ve followed your blog. Nice to meet a virtual friend in person. You must do a derailed report on the RWA conference. I’m intending on going to the West Coast fiction festival next year in WA, I’ve never been to Perth and there are so many authors out there and some blogging/Facebook friends too that I would like to meet. So nice to have something on the calendar to look forward to.

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      There are certainly lots of WA authors and I’m often surprised when I see more and more pop up. (Thankfully there are quite a lot of Qld authors as well! πŸ˜‰ )

      And yes, it is nice to actually meet people you usually only see through their words or on screen. Most people tell me I’m exactly like they expect to be… I think they mean that as a good thing! πŸ™‚

  • Johanna
    June 29, 2017

    Oh have fun at the Romance Writers Convention – I went to one in Perth a few years ago and it was such fun and I met some incredible women. Yes, I think it’s good to have plans because without them life slips by and you begin to wonder, “What have I done this month/year?” I’m not a good planner because I like to think I savour the moment, when in reality I’m more likely to be sitting at my computer in a darkened room savouring the blogging moment, rather than being out and about being energetic and meeting up with people Planning for me is essential to getting into the big wide world!

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      I like spontaneity but ‘need’ plans so I commit to do stuff. Otherwise I tend to let apathy set in and do nothing. I’ve talked about going to writing festivals for years…. I went to the Brisbane one in the mid 2000s but have mostly talked about it since, though there is a localish one I attended last year, which was good.

  • Denyse Whelan
    June 29, 2017

    So good to see you back here Deb! I missed your updates and words. Always interested in reading what you are up to. I too struggle with not having much/anything to look forward to but in my case, I sense that ageing is something high on that list as the inevitable…and it’s already here! Yikes. I am so glad that you and Jo are going to meet up. It is so good meeting bloggy pals because you already know each other in so many ways. Excited for you! Denyse xx

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      I wonder if having family helps Denyse. Some friends of mine talk about their kids finishing school / Uni, getting married and having kids, becoming grandparents as being things they look forward to. Or holidays. Perhaps it’s a milestones thing….

      And yes, I’m really excited to be finally meeting Jo, though at least we’ve skyped so have seen each other’s mannerisms etc which can sometimes be weird!

  • leannelc
    June 29, 2017

    Hi Deb – so lovely to see you all positive and upbeat and having things to look forward to. I totally believe we need to take responsibility for filling our world and not wait around for others to do it for us. I have spent way too long depending on others – now I do my own thing and if someone has something interesting on offer then I might take them up on it. The trouble for me is that I feel less and less like participating in events – and more and more wanting to be home in my own space (preferably in my pjs!)

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      Oh yes I can relate to the PJs bit. I’ve always been single so pretty independent in that respect and had to do everything myself but realise any ‘fun’ is usually more about instant gratification (reading, food, tv) that doesn’t really offer any chance to become excited about it. I think these things are far healthier!

  • writeofthemiddle
    June 29, 2017

    Great to have you back on the team Deb!! I agree that it is fabulous to have things to look forward to. I really need to plan some things cos at this stage … I have nothing! I would love to meet Jo Tracey too – she is easy to chat to and seems like loads of fun and inspiring too what with having written actual books and everything! Actually – I’d love to meet the whole #TeamLovinLife … the only ones I’ve met in real life is YOU and I met Lyndall at Problogger in 2015! #TeamLovinLife

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      Perhaps we can organise something! We did talk at one point about a (ahem) mature bloggers’ retreat of some sort!

      • Jo
        June 29, 2017

        Just how cool would that be?

        • writeofthemiddle
          June 29, 2017

          It’d be so cool! So much fun! πŸ™‚

      • writeofthemiddle
        June 29, 2017

        Let’s raise it again – maybe on the group FB page? It’d be so much fun and something really lovely to look forward to! πŸ™‚

  • Jodie
    June 29, 2017

    Wow…this really made me think, because a friend and I were talking about how you can feel so insignificant in retirement! Having a reason to get out of bed is key!
    Some days are easier than others, I think! But I’m so glad you are back in the mix!!
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Debbish
      June 29, 2017

      I think I struggled with something similar when I took a redundancy from a job and moved in 2012 Jodie. I wasn’t old enough or rich enough to retire, so was eventually going back to work in some form but it was weird as I’d always defined myself by what I did. And suddenly I wasn’t doing anything and I had no idea who / what I was.

  • Kathy Marris
    June 29, 2017

    Yay Deb, you go girl! You have some fantastic things to look forward to and they all sound like they will be good value. In my opinion the ladies that I have met online are some of my best friends. They always seem to be there for me to help support and help one another. I have met a couple of mine in person which was an absolute thrill. I’m so happy that you are getting to meet your virtual friend, Jo in real life. πŸ™‚ #TeamLovinLife

    • Debbish
      June 30, 2017

      Ah yes, I live alone too Kathy so if I need to rant usually need to do it online (hopefully via DM / chatroom with someone rather than on a public FB status update!) with a friend.

  • sizzlesue15
    June 29, 2017

    We do need a reason to get up each day Debbie and it is so important for our mental health. Good for you with the B2B 10km walk. It is a new course from last year and much better than the original one. You actually get to cross the Storey Bridge on the bridge itself and not on the walking part. I’m not sure I’m doing that one but if I was I could be another virtual friend that you would meet in person. I’m off to the Gold Coast for a half marathon on Sunday.

    • Debbish
      June 30, 2017

      My bloggy friend Char (Life’s a Marathon) is a runner too Sue and I’m sure she’s off to the Gold Coast. If you do B2B you can wave as you streak past us. (Not nude, obviously… just zooming along!) πŸ™‚

  • seizetheday20
    June 30, 2017

    You’re so right Deb, we all need a great reason to get out of bed in the mornings. You’ve got a fabulous list going on! Meeting Jo in real life for the first time is so exciting! Welcome back to the Lovin’ Life Linky team – we’ve missed you! πŸ™‚ #TeamLovinLife

  • Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    June 30, 2017

    If I don’t have something that make me want to jump out of bed each day I definitely the grumps, the sads and the who gives a F’s. I definitely need to keep busy. Which is why I put so much time into creating new projects and things to help me feel fulfilled (even if I do get overwhelmed of the enormity of it all sometimes).
    Hopefully my legacy creation exercise will help you find some more stuff to get excited about.
    Hope to see you soon!
    Welcome back to #teamlovinlife

    • Debbish
      June 30, 2017

      Yes, the legacy creation exercise sounds great… and I tend to struggle with the ‘something to look forward to’ notion. In reality it really did used to be Vanilla Diet Coke that got me out of bed each day – something immediate to look forward to, even if there wasn’t anything else.

  • Glen Donaldson
    June 30, 2017

    The feel-good benefits of Vanilla Coke are not to be underestimated.
    I too have recently become sold on the refreshing qualities of this deep night-coloured elixir.
    Though I try to keep to my pizza rule -‘not before midday.’

    • Debbish
      July 1, 2017

      I’m more of a fan of the Vanilla ‘Diet’ Coke but it’s hard to get nowadays. And I’m the opposite… I only drink it (or normal diet coke) before lunch. I’m a bad sleeper so try to cut myself off the caffeine (other than chocolate obvs) before early – mid arvo.

  • Janet Camilleri
    July 1, 2017

    I’m one of those rare beings that (most days) actually looks forward to work – mind you it helps that I work from home, writing! I’m feeling in desperate need of a holiday at the moment however … just need to talk hubster into it (and I think he needs it even more than I do!)

    • Debbish
      July 2, 2017

      Yes, I think my days were better when I supposedly worked for myself / did contract stuff / worked from home. I think it depends on your work and workplace a little in terms of the day to day stuff.

  • VirtuallyAllSorts
    July 3, 2017

    I totally think we have to create the happiness ourselves. And I know this is going to sound hippy and cheesey (like really, old, smelly cheese cheesey!) but we start to attract the positive people when we create the happiness ourselves. It’s good to hear you’ve got a few things lined up to look forward to Deb (is that right or do I really call you Debbish?…) and meeting up with Jo will be amazing, I’m sure. I’ve never done the meet up thing. Thanks very much for linking up to #HighlightsofHappy

    • Debbish
      July 4, 2017

      Deb is fine… I tend to use Deb or Deborah. At school I was Debbie but I never call myself that. Debbish was a nickname at Uni when friends and I had a habit of putting ‘ish’ at the end of everything.

      And yes, I’m really looking forward to some of the things I’ve got on in the next month or two!

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