I can change the battery. And tomorrow will come. When things are not okay

Monday, February 20, 2023 Permalink

Life has been a bit up and down lately. Long story and nothing much I can really talk about. Last week was a bit of a challenge with some work stuff but also my mum had (minor) surgery and I travelled away to take her and moved out of my comfort zone multiple times over just a few days. It’s something that’s happened over the last few weeks in fact.

You know that feeling when you drop (and shatter) your work phone and think ‘NOTHING MORE CAN GO WRONG’ and as the youngsters say, ‘nek minute…’

I arrived back home yesterday and wasting spending time on social media, including the less-of-social-media-evils, LinkedIn and a contact shared this article.

You are not okay and tomorrow will come by Emily Kingsley

The author works at a high school and opens the article by commenting on the fact her wall clock had not worked for days. I could soooo relate to the apathy about doing something very minor. I’ve written about it before. I no longer get much ‘mail’ so my broken windows mostly take the form of unpacked bags from overnighters with my mother or (ahem) the piles of books and stuff on the floor of my study*.

things are not okay

Anyhoo, Emily tells us she eventually changed her clock battery. She later uses the example as some ‘life advice’ for her students… things are not okay AND I can change a clock battery. It’s interesting she uses AND rather than BUT. Although upon pondering (and yes, naturally I have) I realise it’s not an either/or, rather a reminder it can be ‘both’.

I’d spent much of my 3-4hr drive home with my mother debriefing about stuff. Worried about my options that felt very limited. Yet there was a glimmer of hope. Of optimism. So yes…

Things are not okay AND tomorrow will still come.

* I tidied my desk for a new screen recently so moved all of the junk off my desk with plans to then tidy it away. Several piles of books, notebooks, cords, pens and the like have resided on my floor for so long they’re likely citizens!

PS. I feel obliged to note here that my problems feel very much like the proverbial ‘first world problems’ and I shouldn’t whinge. So sure, I have a roof over my head, far too much food to eat but at the same time I’m conscious that [those problems] are a big deal to me. 

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  • Denyse Whelan Blogs
    February 20, 2023

    Wrote HUGE comment and it’s gone. Much love to you and you are not alone. Keep sharing! D

  • Jo
    February 22, 2023

    hey there… take care & catch up soon…

  • Sue from Women Living Well After 50
    February 23, 2023

    HI Deb, I hear you. I can find life overwhelming at times and it is difficult not to fall into an apathetic slump. I hope you are okay and sending hugs. Life can be tough and tomorrow will come. Take care xx

  • Debbie
    February 23, 2023

    Yep I get it! Take care.

  • Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    February 23, 2023

    I get it. I think you nailed it with your last comment. Problems are relative and it’s not important whether it’s a problem for others, what matters is that it’s a problem for you. Sending you a big hug and a virtual glass of bubbles!

    • Debbish
      February 25, 2023

      Oh thanks Sammie. It’s true isn’t it that it’s all relative. I’m often surprised by my own reactions or coping skills. I’m sometimes good with BIG stuff but it’s the little things that wear away at me.

  • leannelc
    February 23, 2023

    Hi Deb – I hope the sun shines brightly again soon – and that all those “first world problems” resolve themselves. You’re right that life goes on, and I think sometimes it’s good to tackle one small, do-able task every now and again (like changing a battery) to get that endorphin boost that brings a sense of joy and accomplishment back again. Hang in there x

    • Debbish
      February 25, 2023

      Yes… you’d certainly be able to relate to the thing/s that I’m grappling with at the moment Leanne as I know you made a big decision having dealt with similar yourself. My problem of course is that I let things be way bigger than they need to me and suddenly my mind is completely occupied with the issue. I wake thinking about it, I go to sleep thinking about it. I think about it while watching TV….

  • Denyse Whelan Blogs
    February 24, 2023

    I hope things are feeling somewhat better now. I am always amazed at how moods/feelings can change…as in the weather… Thank you for joining in this week’s link up for Wednesday’s Words and Pics. Next week I will be in ‘moving house’ mode, so no link up. All being well, the link up will be back on 8 March. Denyse.

    • Debbish
      February 25, 2023

      I’m not quite sure how this issue will resolve itself unfortunately Denyse but I did mention in the post that perhaps I need to hang in there for a while and there could be other options. Maybe.

  • Jennifer Jones
    February 28, 2023

    Hi Deb, I hope things work out for you and you’re able to see your way through your problems. I do understand how overwhelming things can feel at times. I have no advice, sorry, but do keep posting so we can stay in touch.

    • Debbish
      February 28, 2023

      Thanks Jennifer. Weirdly I’ve have a better day or two so am feeling better, but know not to get too complacent! x

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