Things I don’t get about plus-sized clothing

Friday, May 13, 2016 Permalink

I’ve been trawling through Taking Shape’s website this morning.

Given the amount of weight I’ve gained since I last worked none of my previous work clothes fit me. And – hoping I’d never work in an office again – I gave a heap away and sold the more expensive stuff just after my seachange. 

When I started work in a real office in February my mother was panicked about what I’d wear given I’d lived in nothing but ‘sweats’ or the equivalent for 3yrs.

Fortunately I only work part-time and don’t actually ‘see’ people other than colleagues most days so I’m able to get away with dressing pretty casually. Plus, it’s regional Queensland and a beachside town, so…

I already had few pairs of trousers which could pass for ‘work’ clothes (most of them black) so my big ‘returning to work’ investment only involved buying three new shirts (oh and two pairs of casual pants to replace the ones I’d be using for work!). Although because I bought the shirts / tunics from Taking Shape, that also required I buy a tank top for under those shirts because all were see-through and not as long as I’d like.

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But now winter is upon us. I have a shirt I can still wear (which was extraordinarily big at the time) and I have a cardigan of sorts I can wear over my other shirts, but I probably need one or two shirts to carry me through winter as I’m pretty sure my 12yr old Nike sweatshirt is far from office-appropriate.

Hence the trawling through TS14+ website. There’s a store in Hervey Bay so I probably should go in there, but trying on clothes makes me cranky and irritable and bad-tempered. And yes… so bad-tempered it took three synonyms to confirm it!

Which eventually brings me to my point. And I must say… my rant isn’t limited to TS14+ (indeed I love their stuff and – nowadays – when out in public I’m dressed in their stuff from head to toe) but is common in plus sized clothing. And I’m wondering if I’m alone with these two plus size clothing frustrations:

1. Tops which are short at the front
Now… I like the edgy oblong hems and so forth, but what I don’t like is the fact that MANY shirts are actually shorter in the front than back.

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This may well be practical so our bums don’t look big to those walking behind us, but I don’t see my bum when I look in the mirror. I see my wide thighs and crotch. So, unless I’m in a multi-mirrored dressing room I’m happy to remain in denial about my butt and would prefer the length in the front so that the hem falls BENEATH the fattest part of my damned body (hips and thighs).

2. Side pockets in trousers
A lot of bigger girls have wide thighs. Until I hit my mid 30s I was very hourglass-like. My waist and stomach weren’t TOO problematic. I carried a little weight in the top half of my body, but most of it from my hips down. So what I don’t get is WHY plus-size clothing manufacturers and designers make pants with side-pockets. The last bloody thing I need is additional padding in that area.

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Because they NEVER sit flat. Never. They bunch up and add extra girth to an already girth-laden spot. And, do women ever use side pockets in their trousers? Other than to stick a hand into when taking selfies of course? Unless you’re a skinny minnie or, not well-endowed thigh-wise there’s no way in hell we’re adding wallets, phones or keys to our already-generous saddle bags.

Of course, I have to acknowledge how far we’ve come.

When I first started needing to wear plus-sized clothing it was the mid-late 1990s. I was only about 30 but had to dress like a 50yr old.

Now at least we’ve got some wonderful plus-size designers and stores and other designers extending their sizing. So, I do count my blessings. However… can we please ditch the side pockets?!

Any other plus-sizers out there want to buy into this argument? Or have other irks? 

I’m flogging my blog With Some Grace today.

*Pics from TS 14+ site. 

36 Comments
  • Char
    May 13, 2016

    The mullet skirt was a bad idea and a bad look so why do designers think that the mullet shirt will be any better?

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      A lot of the plus stores almost only stock those kinds of shirts. I went into another while in Brisbane and it was the same. I suspect the longer sides and back are supposed to draw one’s lines ‘in’ but ugh….

  • Jo
    May 13, 2016

    I’m with you- I need something that skins my tum- not my bum! And enough with the prints that scream you bought it from the only decent plus size store in town!

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Oh my god, I know! I took a line out of the post that said I can pick someone in TS14+ coming from a mile away. I almost only buy plain coloured stuff from there – except for 2 pair of casual pants. At least before they opened in Hervey Bay it wasn’t quite so bad!

      Although I used to buy their stuff years ago and then they suddenly appeared in Myer stores and I kinda stopped because EVERY plus-size working girl (of the government / office kind) was wearing them.

  • Kate W
    May 13, 2016

    Things that annoy me: sleeveless everything (I hate the top of my arms).

    Tops that have high necklines – I have the opposite problem to you – I’m top-heavy and normal t-shirt necks (as opposed to a V-neck or scoop) look like acres of fabric stretched across my boobs. Horrid.

    Clingy and shiny fabrics – great for highlighting rolls of fat! Polyester may be cheaper but it’s yuck.

    Bad prints. I agree that plus-size styles have come a very long way but the same can’t be said for the prints (I’m looking at you Sara brand, with your fussy florals).

    Spaghetti straps on singlet tops, bathers and dresses – note to designers, if I’m buying a size 18 dress or bathers with an advertised F cup, I’m also wearing a bra that is like scaffolding and/ or need more support than your bit-of-string shoulder strap can offer.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Oh definitely re the necklines… I’m the same – hate anything too high. Same with the fabrics – those crinkly things look great until you wash them and then they stick to every curve!

      And I have to admit I only buy cheap bathers from plus-size sections of Target and the like – so they’re usually reinforced up top!

  • gargoylebruce
    May 13, 2016

    I was in Big W the other day looking for undies. There were NONE bigger than size 16. Does Big W think chubby ladies don’t wear underpants? Were the 16+ undies hidden away so that larger ladies would have to search for them like some kind of undies-pariah? It boggles the mind.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Also that they don’t want to wear pretty undies…. as most are scary! I’m a boring wearer of underwear – sports bras and plain knickers, but I expect if ANYONE was ever going to see me half-dressed I’d want something a bit more attractive!

  • Margaret Richters
    May 13, 2016

    I am total agreement with all your comments Deb. I hate buttoned shirts too as never bug enough for me. The other shirts i hate is the ones with cuffs that roll up they never sit right after the first wash. I found Sorbet has some nice stuff they have a shop at DFO i like to check out when in Brisbane. Autograph can have some nice stuff sometimes too.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      I’ve never heard of Sorbet Margaret. Will have to suss them out. (Mind you – shopping and Brisbane are two words that fill me with horror!) 😉

  • charliegirlteachergirl
    May 13, 2016

    The shirt thing gets me. I am very well endowed and have that voluptuous body that is so often referred to in romance novels. If you look at me from behind, I have the beautiful hourglass figure. In the last couple of years since I got with the (now ex) fiance, I started eating on his schedule when I could have time with him. I put on 50+ pounds – all the weight I lost during my cancer scare and had kept off for a year. I have only added pounds, and it is extremely noticeable in my thighs and tummy now. I hate wearing shorts because my legs look like sausages at the ends, and my tummy fat is all pushed up, but what’s worse is these damn shirts! Most of my dress shirts for work (which is practically the only reason I buy clothes anymore) are so short in the front that I now have to strategically pair shirts with bottoms so that my stomach isn’t showing – without even moving my arms! I keep finding that shirts seem to be so short in the front that they’re not even a normal length to cover your front. It drives me nuts and really limits me in selecting new clothes and in just trying to pair things together for outfits. I hate it. I have a few pants with sidepockets and since I teach and I’m constantly moving around, I do like that so I can carry my phone with me if I get texts from my partner or my co-teacher about a change in our plans, but I get what you’re saying about the fabric being bulky and obvious and looking like it adds on more pounds.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      I had a lengthy chat to a person in TS14+ (the plus size store I mention) one day and – as she said – they’re all about layering… so the expectation is that you’ll buy sleeveless tank tops / long singlets to go underneath. It adds to the cost of course (their stuff isn’t that cheap) and sometimes the models in their catalogues wear like 3 layers. (My body does NOT need that!)

  • Tegan
    May 13, 2016

    My biggest gripe is sleeves. I have a dress that I bought a couple of years ago but have never worn. I’ve recently lost some weight so I decided to try it on. It fits perfectly on my body but the sleeves are so tight I fear they’re almost touching bone. If I’m a size 24, then chances are I have size 24 arms too!

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Oh yes Tegan – definitely! So uncomfortable also!

  • cakaveka
    May 13, 2016

    Oh thank God I’m not the only person that hates those stupid short front shirts!! They look bad on the hanger and even worse on the body! You’re right… it is hard now that TS is in Hervey Bay as we don’t all want to look like voluminous clones. I still purchase some things from there but try to mix up the pieces with things I’ve bought elsewhere.
    I’ve recently bought a couple of dresses from City Chic at the Sunshine Coast and I really like them. They’re a bit vintage looking – fitted at the top and with a full skirt. I also bought a couple of similar dresses at Myer in Brisbane over the Summer. They’re sleeveless but I wear a shrug or short cardigan over the top to cover up the tuck shop lady arms.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Ah yes… I’ve got a few of TS14+’s light short sleeved shirts that are short and wear the sleeveless tank underneath. I’d never wear the tank otherwise – cos of the arm thing…

      I almost added the sleeveless thing to this list but know a lot of bigger people who go sleeveless and don’t worry about it. I wish I could (well, would!).

  • Mystery Case
    May 13, 2016

    I’m having so many issues being height challenged that I hardly want to go shopping. I love the look of those harem style or drop crotch pants on others but seriously I’m holding weight in my mid section which means I can end up with a camel toe in drop crotch pants. Not even kidding and just between you and me. LOL

    Hoping it’s ok, but I’ve linked your post up for our signature style challenge.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Oh yes of course Raych!

      Oh and I couldn’t wear those drop crotch pants as I’d look like one of those weighted doll things – you push over and they bounce back up…

  • Ingrid Ingrid
    May 13, 2016

    I dislike the square necklines I see on quite a few plus size dresses and shirts. A v-neck line is so much more flattering.

    I agree with your comments about the shirts that are too short at the front.

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      Ah yes… I once bought a square neck (years ago) thinking it might be flattering and it was FAR from it!

  • Jess
    May 13, 2016

    I know when I was a trainer in the states there were lots of problems with plus sized workout wear. Either designs for skinny skinny types (think short shorts etc) that just came in plus sizes but they felt self conscious in. Or ugly baggy shapeless stuff that did nothing for their confidence!

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      I wear that kind of exercise gear – though fitting tights type things and big loose tshirts. TS14+ and others have exercise gear but it’s all fitting – if I wasn’t so big something in between would be nice!

  • tomfo13
    May 13, 2016

    Side pockets always kill me, I haven’t met a pair I like yet.

  • Em @ Have A Laugh On Me
    May 13, 2016

    It does seem a bit off I agree, esp the front bum part, of which I have issues with, I have a round belly/below etc and wish clothes would go down that far! I hope you find something Deb, have you looked on UK sites?? xx

    • Debbish
      May 13, 2016

      I haven’t Em. I don’t actually feel quite desperate enough yet. There are a couple of shirts I like on the TS14+ site so I might order one of them when I get my act together. My mother’s threatening to make me go shopping so I’d better do something!

      Thankfully I only work 5 days a fortnight so the most I need are three things in any one week. I’m sure I used to care about this stuff!!! 😉

  • Michelle Weaver (@pinkypoinker)
    May 14, 2016

    I’ve been searching everywhere for work pants with side pockets! I like them to put my Nicorettes and tissues in. I detest short fronts on shirts too. Clothes shopping puts me in a foul mood too Deb.

    • Debbish
      May 14, 2016

      I assumed (pants with side pockets) are readily available for non-plus size peeps given there’s a plethora for bigger thighed ladies!

  • Melissa {Suger}
    May 14, 2016

    Being long in the torso, that hilo top thing drives me INSANE. Some of them basically crop at the front for me. Haha. And I’d be ok if the style happened once or twice and there was options, but often it’s THE ONLY option. Lord. Let me know if you need anything, I have a ridiculous surplus of clothes and can probably help out with some basics to get you started depending on sizing. x

    • Debbish
      May 14, 2016

      Aww thanks Melissa. I’ve seen a couple of fairly casual tops on the TS+ sale that I could dress up a little for work. I should look at other labels but really only buying what I desperately need while not in a ‘dressing up’ frame of mind!

  • Jennifer Miron
    May 14, 2016

    Agree with you completely re. hi-lo tops. A few more pet-peeves – sleeveless tops- seriously? How about the the ‘inspired’ buyer at Myer that finally imported plus-sized Levis jeans for women, but only ordered skinny jeans, no boot-cut or anything that doesn’t cut off circulation in your calves… and lastly – why can’t anyone in Australia sell a pair of plain black plus-size activewear pants with zipped pockets that are full length. Seems the only activewear I can find is multicoloured (because I really want to call attention to myself when I am exercising – not) and with legs that either end at at the knee or above my ankle. I just don’t understand why full length, pocketed activewear pants are impossible to find.

    • Debbish
      May 15, 2016

      I’m so with you on the skinny-leg jeans and pants Jennifer! I’m a huge fan of the bootleg so it frustrates me when they aren’t an option.

      And yes, agree with you re sleeveless tops as well!

  • Tory
    May 16, 2016

    hilo dresses. Curvy with long legs equals showing off more than I would like to or always having to wear leggings.

    Ditto most pants. Plus size does not always equal short 🙁

  • Grace
    May 17, 2016

    Yeah, I totally don’t get the side pockets. I like brands that can still make fitted clothes for sizes 16 and up. Especially when they use slightly stretchy material.

    • Debbish
      May 17, 2016

      Yes, true Grace. I don’t wear fitted tops but wear stretchy pants quite often with a big and long top that covers my tummy and thighs!

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