Life this week: #mothersitting

Friday, November 15, 2019 Permalink

For reasons unknown I’ve not been in the mood to write any personal posts for a few weeks.

I’ve had a little bit on. My project management contract ramped up for a while there. I started a new part-time gig and then quit (long story). And my mum was in hospital for a couple of weeks so I was visiting daily.

She’s home now and I’m at her place (ie. my childhood home).

Of course just because I’ve not been blogging doesn’t mean I’ve not been blithering elsewhere…. #mylifeonTwitter

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I should mention she’s not on Twitter so doesn’t see my tweets. I did read these to her before posting though, and she knows I have a need to debrief. (aka rant!)

In all honesty this first week at her place has gone really quickly and neither of us has driven the other crazy. I probably found the hospital visiting more arduous (emotionally and time-wise).

It’s now three weeks since her hip replacement and we’ve discussed me having a night at home early next week. She’ll be on crutches for a few more weeks but her recovery is going nicely and she’s pretty independent.

What’s happening in your world?

12 Comments
  • Gail G
    November 15, 2019

    Thanks for making me smile. I think this is what you should write your book about, including the tweets! I am not on Twitter, but would follow you in an instant if I was. She probably loved that you left her at the dining room table on her own too. Sometimes we mothers like our own space! Then again……….

    • Debbish
      November 15, 2019

      As I mentioned, I’m having a night at my place soon (I’ve got an early morning commitment) and suspect mum’s probably looking forward to the space. “Are you alright?” I keep asking her when I hear her moving about. I had to go to some meetings last Monday and was worried about leaving her home by herself for a few hours. I suggested someone could come and visit but she said she was fine. (Probably wanted some peace and quiet!)

  • amy andrews
    November 15, 2019

    Hope your Mum continues to improve with her hip.
    PS – vegemite and cheese toast is the bomb!

    • Debbish
      November 15, 2019

      Mum tried to start physio today but her surgeon had told her to stay on the crutches for 6wks and not to weight-bear on that side more than 20kg. So when she got to the physio they told her there’s nothing they can do until after that…. which seems a bit weird to me. I’m sure she was doing more after her knee and other hip replacement! Oh well….

      I must admit I don’t actually like vegemite anyway. I ate promite as a kid but…

  • Di (@ShinyGlitterBug)
    November 15, 2019

    Hehe well I’m sure she’s thankful you are #mothersitting even if you are tweet ranting the whole thing!

    Di from Max The Unicorn

    • Debbish
      November 16, 2019

      Yes I know she’s grateful. I’ve done it a few times now (as she’s had a knee and previous hip replacement) and I always remind her that she’d definitely do the same for me. There’s no question.

  • Laurie
    November 16, 2019

    I had to smile when I read your tweets. I bet your mom is grateful to you for your momsitting. Being a caretaker to our parents is never an easy job.

    • Debbish
      November 16, 2019

      Am conscious it’s also hard for her as well. Years ago (when I moved closer) someone asked why I wasn’t moving in and we commented that we’d both lived alone for too long to cope with each other long-term. I’d probably be worse as I’ve lived alone (basically) since 1991!

  • Jo
    November 16, 2019

    You made me giggle. In all seriousness though, glad to hear she’s on the mend…

    • Debbish
      November 16, 2019

      Yes, I’ve left her up at night the last few nights and gone to bed earlier and she’s been able to get herself to bed etc. Am planning to have tomorrow night at home. Will ring and check on her several times though.

  • Natalie
    November 16, 2019

    I’m glad to hear your mom’s recovery is going well. It’s nice to have a close family member around after surgery but I understand what you mean by having peace and quiet at your own place. Your tweets made me smile.

    • Debbish
      November 16, 2019

      One of the reasons I moved near my mum after my seachange is because I’d been conscious of the fact she’d had to be my dad’s carer for a number of years and I felt a little bad I hadn’t done more.

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