I was attempting sleep last night (aka playing on my iPad and checking out Twitter and blogs posts) when I came across someone bemoaning the fact that ‘spirituality’ had become competitive.
I’d read something recently about meditation and relaxation techniques so knew exactly what the person was talking about.
I believe finding what’s right or works for you is one thing, but pitting some form of relaxation against another just doesn’t make sense.
However… it occurred to me that I sometimes view meditation or relaxation as something you can pass or fail. As if winning or losing is its sole purpose.
I’ve mentioned before that I’m a huge fan of Jennifer Polle and have several of her recordings. In fact I listen to one almost every night. When I first started listening to them a couple of moments in my two faves (Clearing Emotional Blocks and Intuitive Eating) used to bring me to tears every time. That’s no longer the case, but I now find I’m much better at tuning in and focusing on her words in certain places.
However, I sometimes worry I’m doing it ‘wrong’. Often my thoughts will float elsewhere, or I’ll struggle to get comfortable so I sigh and restart the recording… as if anything less than my full attention means I’ve failed or I won’t succeed. Of course I shake my head at these thoughts, realising that one session will not suddenly make me ‘better’. (And as someone in a private FB group recently reminded me… I am not broken!)
A while ago I wrote about my desire to meditate and wondered if it’s possible to do it ‘wrong’. And does it matter? I’m not religious but it’s a bit akin to wondering if you’re praying correctly. If there’s a god, do they really care?!
So, rather than chastise myself for not focussing fully on the recording or being fully in the moment I’m going to remind myself that relaxation and meditation are not competitive sports. The end result is obviously important (whether that be calmness or a shift in thinking) but it’s actually something we do for ourselves. Tying myself up in knots about right / wrong is kinda defeating the purpose.
Do you meditate or relax via assisted means (other than alcohol, of course! 😉 )
I’m IBOTing with Essentially Jess today.