Checking in and life lately

Thursday, August 23, 2018 Permalink

I’m currently tired of overthinking so decided against an angsty post this Thursday, instead going with my own version of a check-in of sorts, sharing bits and pieces of life lately.

Binge-reading
This sounds like a fun thing, but it’s not altogether healthy for me. I only read at night and have had some commitments recently so I’ve found that on ANY free night I’ve been reading an entire book in a sitting. (So, four in four nights last weekend.)

Reading is one of my coping mechanisms, so bingeing on it (ie. a book a night) is a sign that I need to look at what’s happening in my life (the broken windows analogy) and – as my TV hasn’t been turned on for almost two weeks – time to watch some TV.

life lately

This month’s arrivals along with 4 eBooks

Pondering
Where to next professionally given that my job ends soon. I talked about this recently but my options are really starting to crystalise in my mind. There’s something I can apply for in my current workplace but I’m unsure that it’s an option I want to pursue, so I’m weighing-up (overanalysing) the money vs freedom vs values thing. #Inrelatednews, am I too old to find a sugar daddy?

Holiday prep (or lack thereof)
I’m also pondering (though not yet stressing about) the stuff I need to do before my looming holiday. I’ve already mentioned that I want to book a couple of things so I lock in plans for my first couple of days.

As I also mentioned last week, I had planned to attempt to learn a few Italian phrases but the app I downloaded isn’t really doing it for me and I think I need something more conversational.

Oh and I’m yet to choose which of my novels, if any, I pursue while I’m on the writing retreat. I had great plans of revising the three I’ve started and one I’ve contemplated to make a decision. But I haven’t even re-read them at this stage. That won’t take long with a couple of them, but one (at 50K words) is a bit more complex.

Oh and of course I’ve not even started to think about what clothes I’m taking.

Happy coincidences
I had an email from Hachette Australia listing their authors attending the Brisbane Writers’ Festival in September. When I checked the dates I realised it’s in the lead-up to my overseas holiday. I’m working on the week-days but heading to Brisbane early on the Saturday morning and have already booked into (and paid for) four sessions on Saturday and one on Sunday (before flying out Sunday night)!

What an excellent way to transition from work into my holiday!!!

Do you have coping mechanisms that seem okay to others, but are perhaps unhealthy for you?

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26 Comments
  • Jo
    August 23, 2018

    I find I binge watch when I have something that I should be doing. Like at the moment – I have so many “me” projects/ ideas on at the same time that my attention is scattered and I’m very slow to get off the mark with any of them. So I’m watching Doc Martin instead – from the beginning. Yes, I know.

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      I know it sounds weird but bingeing on some Netflix would actually be a good thing for me at the moment Jo. I’m excited that Ozark s2 is back next week and think there have been some releases in the last month or so I’d like to watch. (And some stuff on SBS!)

  • Natalie
    August 23, 2018

    I read comic books or watch comedies to make me laugh and forget what’s bothering me.

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      Oh perhaps I could binge on a comedy – that’s a good idea. Something light and really distracting! Thanks for the idea!

  • writeofthemiddle
    August 23, 2018

    Wow – a book in one night! Surely not a big thick book? I have been crocheting a lot lately as a ‘coping’ mechanism. It helps me to disengage my mind somehow. I have a few things worrying me at the moment. I know you must be worrying about ‘what next’ when you finish this current job but I hope not at the expense of the excitement of your upcoming trip and of course that writers festival sounds like fun too! Lots of exciting things coming up for you Deb! 🙂 #TeamLovinLife

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      Ah yes, I’m trying not to let my worry about future income etc stress me too much and see it as an opportunity. I’ve pre-paid as many bills as I can to take me through to the end of the year (which is SERIOUSLY adult-like of me!) so I’ll just need to support my food, alcohol and vanilla diet coke habit and hope no unexpected expenses pop up.

      Oh and I’m a pretty fast reader so anything 400 pages or less I can read in just a few hours. x

  • Jan Wild
    August 23, 2018

    Recommend you stay away from the TV until the madness abates in Fed Parliament :-0
    What a great coincidence on the Writer’s Festival. And I agree with MIn, enjoy your holiday before thinking too much about what’s next.

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      Ugh, the politics! Why couldn’t it have happened while I was o/s and I could have been oblivious! 🙂

  • Sydney Shop Girl
    August 23, 2018

    I love your happy coincidence and how it will set your mind up for that holiday!

    SSG xxx

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      Yes, I’m hoping it’ll get me back in the zone!

  • Vanessa
    August 23, 2018

    That actually sounds like the perfect lead in to the holiday!

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      Work’s gonna be pretty frantic until I finish on that Friday afternoon so – even though I’ll probably just want to sleep / lie around and do nothing – I think it’ll be good having something SOOOO different that it’ll kinda form a barrier between… the ‘before’ and ‘after’. Kinda.

  • Denyse Whelan
    August 23, 2018

    My coping mechanism is to ensure that each day, no matter what, I do the ‘get dressed for a reason’ and go for a coffee….suddenly my world expands that way…and I carry a very small art/journal kit and often use my solo coffee time to draw or write. It helps ground me. As does ensuring I do something outside or at least NOTICE nature around me…and the last but never least is to always have some art or creating thing on the go. I have stuck to these each day of 2018 and it gives me a sense of routine and purpose. I may need to blog about what I have noticed about my eating since I got teeth. It’s been really interesting.

    Deb,you project manage…now time to have yourself as the project to get the best out of your life as it goes forward.

    Looking forward to your holiday snaps!!
    Love, as always,
    Denyse

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      Denyse, I love that your coping mechanism is a positive and healthy one. My thought immediately goes to the negative to bad habits, but thank you for the reminder that some coping mechanisms are good to have!

      x

  • Patrick Weseman
    August 24, 2018

    I binge watch or read when I need not to think for a while. Binge watching TV is a wonderful way to shut off the brain. #TeamLovinLife

    • Debbish
      August 25, 2018

      Yes, I suspect binge-reading doesn’t necessarily help diminish the overthinking etc cos I have the reviews to write, but TV is more of an escape for me!

  • Jodie
    August 24, 2018

    It’s never too late to meet your sugar daddy…. LOL!! But in case that doesn’t work out, you could totally use your impressive book reading skills possibly??
    As for packing, you know those Italians don’t believe in jeans and t-shirts. Take a great pair of black sneakers for walking. black pants and wonderfully colorful tops and scarves!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Debbish
      August 25, 2018

      I keep seeing an ad for some ritzy hotel in the Maldives looking for a bookseller who’ll also write interesting and witty blog posts and I think… I could do that. I probably wouldn’t promote books by Tolstoy and the like but I do know a thing or two about crime fiction and thrillers! 🙂

      I’m actually thinking of taking my Doc Martens as my comfy trekking around town shoes as they’re on their last legs so figure I could leave them there if I do some shopping and need the bag space! And yes, I’m thinking of some funky chunky sneakers so I don’t look TOO touristy, my cute (but impractical ballet flats) for aesthetics solely (also cos they’ll take up no space) and then some flat comfy sandals in case it’s really hot. (Although that may be a bit of overkill!)

  • Candi Randolph
    August 24, 2018

    I tend to exercise, walk or ride a bike, when things start to get to me. A few dips into the cookie jar, too. Hopefully the two will balance each other out! But, I try to pay attention to why I’m doing these things, even though the exercise is good for me.

    • Debbish
      August 24, 2018

      I like the idea of balance Candi. I’m afraid I go the cookie jar route but don’t balance it out with some exercise when stressed – and I should.

      Happily (or unhappily) I know the source of mine at the moment and don’t (feel as if I) have a lot of control over it at the moment – but know it will be short-lived.

  • Sue
    August 24, 2018

    Hi Deb, firstly I am blown away by how many books you not only manage to read, but also write reviews for!!!
    Secondly, summer in Italy, you won’t need many clothes, so that bit won’t take too long 🙂
    What a happy coincidence about the writer’s festival in Brisbane, I would have done exactly the same.
    Binge-watching Netflix is my unhelpful coping strategy, and one that I’m working on at the moment. The obvious solution would be to ditch Netflix, of course…………
    On a completely unrelated note, I’m so glad to see I’m not the only one with a weird avatar when I comment on your site……….!!! I have no idea why, but I’m sure there’s an answer, somewhere…………
    Looking forward to some travel posts so I can live vicariously xx

    • Debbish
      August 25, 2018

      Not sure re the avatar thing…. I often have a really old one (with brown hair) when I comment on other people’s blogs!

      I’ve actually purposely (and purposefully) cut down my reading expectations a little this year (well from 4-5 books / week to 2-3) particularly while working full-time. It’s not the reading I struggle with obviously, but keeping up with the reviews!

      And yes, I’ve been checking out the potential weather in Italy and guess it will be similar to what we’ll have in Australia – their autumn and our spring. I plan to take ‘layers’ rather than anything too warm in case it gets cold.

      I plan to watch some Netflix this weekend. Am very behind, though did watch Secret City with my mum a few weeks ago. I really enjoyed Ozark and I think the second season is available from next weekend so need to plan around that! 🙂

  • leannelc
    August 24, 2018

    That’s a LOT of books you’ve churned through over the last few weeks! Good luck with the job decision – it’s tricky knowing what to choose next isn’t it? I definitely don’t think you’re too old for a sugar daddy – maybe you’ll meet one when you get an unexpected upgrade to Business Class on one of your Italian flights?? 🙂

    • Debbish
      August 25, 2018

      Oh an upgrade would be lovely but alas I fly so little I doubt it’ll happen – I’ll be squished into Economy instead. Though that’ll be fine. I leave at 11pm so figure a champagne or two, I’ll watch something and then hopefully sleep for a while.

      x

  • Kathy Marris
    August 26, 2018

    It does sound like the perfect segway into your overseas holiday. I’m so envious of your holiday Deb. Almost everyone I know (including two of my besties) are travelling in Europe at the moment. I wish I was there with them instead of moving house!

    • Debbish
      August 26, 2018

      It’s getting close now Kathy and I’m even booking stuff I wasn’t planning to – well at least the trains from Rome to Naples on arrival and private transfer to Sorrento. And a small group boat trip from Sorrento to Positano and Capri. It all sounds a world away from life here at the moment, but it’s starting to feel real!

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