I was chatting online with a friend about stuff and we were talking about that fine line. The one which I often cross despite being conscious of its existence.
I’d vented a little ( 🙄 ) on Facebook about a couple of jobs I’d applied for and not gotten as well as the frustration of job hunting in a regional town with limited opportunities.
The friend messaged to say they could understand how I was feeling and was in a similar situation.
In all honesty I was really frustrated in my job search efforts and confidence waning, so I’d really had to rein myself in when moaning on Facebook. And the fact that perhaps I shouldn’t have said anything at all is the entire point of this post.
Many social media users or blog readers comment on the importance of authenticity. They prefer it if those sharing their stories publicly don’t only share the good, but also the bad. And I know from my own blogging history, people appreciate being able to relate to something you’ve shared. It helps us feel less alone.
However… conversely we don’t like those people who do nothing but whinge. Or the vague-booking thing – which I suspect I’ve bordered on lately.
I’ve always been very circumspect about certain things because of my previous work history. I know something I say could come back to bite me. And I continue to be fairly circumspect about most things (politics, religion and the like). I’ve never shared details of work specifics – people or incidents – and often I’ve not even really talked about what I’ve done to pay the bills.
In my online conversation with a friend I explained that, I don’t want to falsely claim my life is perfect and I’m cruising along. I believe in being authentic and most people who meet me in person after knowing me online, tell me I’m pretty much as they expected me to be. (A compliment I hope!)
But on the other hand I’m still looking for a job and need to appear vaguely sane and employable. I’m perhaps even hunting for work as a subcontractor so want companies to know I am reliable and get the job done. That I’m professional. (Or even that I’m hugely successful and highly sought-after!)
So… there’s a certain image I need to maintain and this is certainly the case for most people. We all hear of potential employers who search your social media feeds; and public vs private living is increasingly harder in this online age.
But going back to the other hand. Which would be the first hand or #whatevs… Do we really want to sanitise our lives THAT much?
Is this something you ponder, as a blogger or some who uses Facebook or Instagram and the like?
Linking up with Denyse today.
* Pic from Facebook (@SuspendedCoffeess)