Attack of the 8pm ‘sads’

Friday, May 16, 2014 Permalink

I had an attack of the ‘sads’ last night. More than melancholy, an overwhelming feeling of feeling overwhelmed.

I know we all have them. Indeed, if there’s one benefit from the advent of social media (and blogs), it’s ensuring we never feel alone in our thoughts or actions. And I must confess to being relieved when someone leaves a comment on a blog post saying:

“Oh my god, I do that same thing and I thought it was just me!” 

Once upon a time we didn’t admit to such things in public, but as it’s something we all feel from time to time I’m not sure why not*. Naturally I had a whinge on Twitter (#asyoudo): a cry for help; attention-seeking behaviour; or just feeling alone and needing to (over)share? Who knows?

My #blahness was the result of a combination of things. I knew what they were and some I’ve been struggling with for a while. But the feelings snuck up on me. One minute I was reading in the bath and getting out to cook dinner – the next I was having a little sook in bed.

Some people reach out to others when they’re struggling. I withdraw… and I’m sure my close friends will attest to that. Asking for help or reassurance is difficult for me… although I almost jumped in my car and drove the 42km to my mother’s – ‘cept it was pouring rain and I was in my PJs.

What eventually occurred to me however was this:

Source: thethingswesay.com

I shared it on a Facebook Forum recently and I truly believe it to be true. So… after I wallowed for a while I pulled on my big girl pants and got back into it.

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And of course today… nothing seems quite as dire.

Do you sometimes struggle with the ‘sads’? What’s your cure? 

*Note I’m not talking about longer-term depression here.

I’m flogging my blog With Some Grace today.

14 Comments
  • Vanessa
    May 16, 2014

    Usually it means I need better sleep1

    • Debbish
      May 16, 2014

      Ah yes. I was tired I will admit. I was torn between just staying in bed and trying to sleep, or getting on with my night!

  • Jody at Six Little Hearts
    May 16, 2014

    Oh yes! This happens to me too. I try to get more sunlight and take vitamin D when I do which helps a lot. I get Seasonal Affective Disorder in Winter and feel bad without Summer boosting my happy hormones. Do try some vitamin D as it works wonders!

    • Debbish
      May 16, 2014

      Sounds like an idea Jody. I actually love winter though – hate summer…. but getting dark early etc probably doesn’t help my frame of mind. (The sky, not my mood, I mean…)

  • Bec @ The Plumbette
    May 16, 2014

    Yes, this happens to me too and ironically it happened to me last night. I usually play some music, eat some chocolate and pray and it’s amazing what a good night’s sleep does to help.
    I hope you are feeling better today. Love that you shared about this today. 🙂

    • Debbish
      May 16, 2014

      I did fantasise about chocolate quite a bit. If it hadn’t been pouring I might have driven to the supermarket and bought a heap of junk food… But – I’m trying not to deal with stress and #mehness with bingeing. I made ‘real’ food in the end – though it was about 9.30pm when I ate dinner!

  • Pinky Poinker
    May 16, 2014

    Vitamins and long walks in the fresh air fix me up a bit! Plus my dogs. I’m glad everything seemed better in the light of day.

    • Debbish
      May 16, 2014

      Thanks. I actually like the idea of a pet for company and comfort now but am living in a pet-free apartment complex!

  • Debbie Desanti
    May 16, 2014

    Hope today is a better day for you

    • Debbish
      May 16, 2014

      Thanks so much. It has been. I just need to put the negative stuff out of my mind or deal with it more effectively. (Or act on the stuff that frustrates me!)

  • @Kanga_Rue
    May 17, 2014

    Like you, I withdraw. Sometimes I have to sit back and think about what I really need right now (and usually it’s more sleep, or just giving myself some TLC with a shower, some yoga stretches etc.) xoxo

    • Debbish
      May 17, 2014

      Yes, what I really wanted was lots of chocolate. And hot chips. But I needed real food and sleep – which I eventually got.

      x

  • Sharmila
    May 17, 2014

    It’s easy to withdraw when you live alone … I acknowledge it’s “down” time … have a good cry then treat myself with TLC … sleep, massage (& more sleep), shopping, favourite piece of cake!

    • Debbish
      May 18, 2014

      Yes… the sleep thing seems to be something everyone agrees on and I guess everything seems worse when you’re tired!

      PS. Shopping stresses me out so I’d skip that one! 😉

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