Attack of the 8pm ‘sads’
I had an attack of the ‘sads’ last night. More than melancholy, an overwhelming feeling of feeling overwhelmed.
I know we all have them. Indeed, if there’s one benefit from the advent of social media (and blogs), it’s ensuring we never feel alone in our thoughts or actions. And I must confess to being relieved when someone leaves a comment on a blog post saying:
“Oh my god, I do that same thing and I thought it was just me!”
Once upon a time we didn’t admit to such things in public, but as it’s something we all feel from time to time I’m not sure why not*. Naturally I had a whinge on Twitter (#asyoudo): a cry for help; attention-seeking behaviour; or just feeling alone and needing to (over)share? Who knows?
My #blahness was the result of a combination of things. I knew what they were and some I’ve been struggling with for a while. But the feelings snuck up on me. One minute I was reading in the bath and getting out to cook dinner – the next I was having a little sook in bed.
Some people reach out to others when they’re struggling. I withdraw… and I’m sure my close friends will attest to that. Asking for help or reassurance is difficult for me… although I almost jumped in my car and drove the 42km to my mother’s – ‘cept it was pouring rain and I was in my PJs.
What eventually occurred to me however was this:
I shared it on a Facebook Forum recently and I truly believe it to be true. So… after I wallowed for a while I pulled on my big girl pants and got back into it.
And of course today… nothing seems quite as dire.
Do you sometimes struggle with the ‘sads’? What’s your cure?
*Note I’m not talking about longer-term depression here.
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Vanessa
May 16, 2014Usually it means I need better sleep1
Debbish
May 16, 2014Ah yes. I was tired I will admit. I was torn between just staying in bed and trying to sleep, or getting on with my night!
Jody at Six Little Hearts
May 16, 2014Oh yes! This happens to me too. I try to get more sunlight and take vitamin D when I do which helps a lot. I get Seasonal Affective Disorder in Winter and feel bad without Summer boosting my happy hormones. Do try some vitamin D as it works wonders!
Debbish
May 16, 2014Sounds like an idea Jody. I actually love winter though – hate summer…. but getting dark early etc probably doesn’t help my frame of mind. (The sky, not my mood, I mean…)
Bec @ The Plumbette
May 16, 2014Yes, this happens to me too and ironically it happened to me last night. I usually play some music, eat some chocolate and pray and it’s amazing what a good night’s sleep does to help.
I hope you are feeling better today. Love that you shared about this today. 🙂
Debbish
May 16, 2014I did fantasise about chocolate quite a bit. If it hadn’t been pouring I might have driven to the supermarket and bought a heap of junk food… But – I’m trying not to deal with stress and #mehness with bingeing. I made ‘real’ food in the end – though it was about 9.30pm when I ate dinner!
Pinky Poinker
May 16, 2014Vitamins and long walks in the fresh air fix me up a bit! Plus my dogs. I’m glad everything seemed better in the light of day.
Debbish
May 16, 2014Thanks. I actually like the idea of a pet for company and comfort now but am living in a pet-free apartment complex!
Debbie Desanti
May 16, 2014Hope today is a better day for you
Debbish
May 16, 2014Thanks so much. It has been. I just need to put the negative stuff out of my mind or deal with it more effectively. (Or act on the stuff that frustrates me!)
@Kanga_Rue
May 17, 2014Like you, I withdraw. Sometimes I have to sit back and think about what I really need right now (and usually it’s more sleep, or just giving myself some TLC with a shower, some yoga stretches etc.) xoxo
Debbish
May 17, 2014Yes, what I really wanted was lots of chocolate. And hot chips. But I needed real food and sleep – which I eventually got.
x
Sharmila
May 17, 2014It’s easy to withdraw when you live alone … I acknowledge it’s “down” time … have a good cry then treat myself with TLC … sleep, massage (& more sleep), shopping, favourite piece of cake!
Debbish
May 18, 2014Yes… the sleep thing seems to be something everyone agrees on and I guess everything seems worse when you’re tired!
PS. Shopping stresses me out so I’d skip that one! 😉