Since moving I’ve become friends with another new arrival and her very delightful 19 mth old son. Over the past five or so months I’ve spent a lot of time with them both. I enjoy their company and suspect my adoration of Pickle is obvious.
I love how his face lights up every time he sees me and how excited he is when we meet. He greets me without any judgement or concern. Just joy.
People often talk about the unconditional love children have for their parents. Obviously I’ve never experienced this from the angle of a parent, but guess I’ve been privy to something similar.
Often when I arrive to see Pickle I have scary hair. I’m in an old t-shirt and baggy ugly pants and feel porky and blah! But, to Pickle I am (very briefly) like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny rolled into one. He doesn’t look at me and think, “God you look fat in those pants!” (Well… I’m assuming he doesn’t!)
It occurs to me that he sees the person inside, not the one on the outside.
My niece, Miss Em, was very much the same. I used to think that kids must be able to sense when someone loves them wholeheartedly and there’s some innate understanding that the person can be trusted with their hearts and souls.
Some time ago I wrote about Miss Em, when she was 2 or 3 years old, telling me how much she loved my fat tummy. She meant nothing by it. The ‘F’ word didn’t figure into it at all. She didn’t care that I was overweight or that I sometimes felt and looked frumpy. She just saw ‘me’. Without judgement.
While writing this I’ve been pondering exactly how or when kids (or people in general) change. I’m reminded of my Full of Awesome post and a world of infallible four year olds.
When do children stop believing they can do and achieve anything and thinking the best of others?
Before you know it your kids are wanting you to park around the corner rather than be seen at school with your daggy clothes or fat tummy; or they’re stressing about exams and their own looks.
Getting to spend time with Pickle is a wonderful reminder that… for a while anyway, we get to view the world through the unaffected and the untouched. We get to see life through the eyes and minds of those not tainted by society and culture and negativity in general. And that’s refreshing.
Have you had the opportunity to share the world through the eyes of a child?