I got the sack yesterday.
Okay, so it wasn’t actually quite that dramatic, but I am aware that one’s opening line is supposed to be attention-getting…
Creative Writing 101 aside and continuing on with my recent meanderings about mindset; it’s become increasingly obvious to me that only WE are responsible for the way we respond to certain situations and that response is most-certainly shaped by our thinking.
I’m a state government public servant and have been for about 10 years. Before that there was a brief foray into the private sector after four years with the Federal Government. (And before that there were some jobs overseas, Local Government and State Government and so forth. But that’s irrelevant to this tale of woe.)
I don’t see myself as a risk-taker which is why, as a project manager, I’ve remained in government rather than work in the more lucrative private sector.
I do (however) get bored easily and like a challenge, so about 20 months ago I took a temporary secondment away from my permanent job at a slightly higher level. After the first year was up I got an extension to stay. And as I love my current place of employment I’ve been happy where I am.
However, about two months ago the area in which my original position lies was dissolved. The executives I worked for/with, gone – forced to skulk off into the sunset.
I’m a single woman in her (ahem – earlyish) 40s. I have a decent mortgage and no one else to help me pay that mortgage. So, on news of my team’s demise I FREAKED OUT. I spent a couple of weeks panicking about what it might mean for me (it is, after all, all about me!). I was almost rendered impotent by questions: How would I pay my mortgage?; How would I live? Argh!
The obvious question, “What would I do?” But then, “What COULD I do?”
And like that my mindset changed.
It took me a while but I started seeing this as an opportunity. My thinking turned around.
In reality my CV is pretty good. I’ve had some interesting and edgy jobs and have a degree and postgraduate qualifications. I’d like to think I’m not completely unemployable.
But more than that… I started thinking about my options OUTSIDE of my career.
I’ve never had a break from my working life (not that I’m implying taking time off to have and look after kids is ‘time off’). I’ve always been single, so I’ve always been the bread-winner. And (despite my middle management mediocrity) my life has always been about work.
Earlier this year I did the unthinkable and changed my working conditions to do a four-day week. (Sadly I took on some extra responsibilities at work so that’s since changed.) But the decision to do that was incredibly empowering. I was making a statement that other parts of my life demanded attention: my life wasn’t all about my job.
So now… back to my original point: I’ve been sacked. (Read how the message was delivered in my other blog!)
But you know what? That isn’t what I told people yesterday. “I’ve been offered a redundancy package,” I said.
I’m yet to accept the offer. I could take my chances and remain in my temporary job, hoping something else comes up when it’s finished. I know I’m well thought-of there. They’d love to keep me. If possible. But they’ll be facing similar cost-cutting decisions in the near future. I’d like to make that decision easy for them in my case. (Falling on my sword and all!)
I would never have made a decision to quit work and pursue other passions. Instead that was (mostly) taken out of my control. It’s been forced upon me. (Sort of!)
I’m waiting to see the payout figures before making a final decision, but I’m actually feeling good about it all. It’s amazing what a change of perspective can do.
I have some plans. It’s too early to rabbit on about them yet but I’m kinda excited about the myriad of paths before me.
Have you had a negative experience turn into a positive one?
September 1, 2012
Hmmm, tough maybe exciting news? Are you on the edge of glory?
September 1, 2012
Perhaps… I do worry a bit that I mainly want a break from work (and should just take a long holiday) but am kinda excited about what might come next!
September 1, 2012
Cannot wait to hear what you have up your sleeve!! X
September 1, 2012
I just wrote a little bit in a comment in my other blog, but I’m still liking the idea of moving (a seachange), downsizing, reducing my mortgage (to nil if possible) and having a little break from work for a while. And then deciding what to do next!
Deb
September 1, 2012
I’ve done it twice- each was 12 years apart. The 1st time I was in a panic & went straight into another job- ironically the one I have just been retrenched from (after 12 years). That time I was only just back at work after mat leave & we had just taken on a bigger mortgage plus a bridging loan. But it worked out. On each occasion I was given the choice. This time I’ve made the decision to take some time away from corporate (I’m a project & change manager too) to focus on my writing projects. The time is getting closer though (ie the money is running out) to when I need to make a decision. I would advise anyone doing it to take at least a couple of months &, for want of a better word, grieve. Even when it is your choice, you need to put a full stop under one part of life before starting another.
September 1, 2012
I was telling my mother about this post today – the ‘I’ve been sacked’ line and think she was a bit gobsmacked. I guess we hadn’t actually seen it like that – which is a good thing. “You’ve never been sacked before,” she reminded me. I don’t think I ever expected to be… but it feels different thing time around with some of the changes being made in government. I expected it – and by the end – I welcomed it.
As I’ve said in the post I’m yet to accept the ‘offer’. I could hold out and hope something else comes up, but unless something untoward happens I suspect I’ll be footloose and fancy-free (albeit watching my money more closely) at the end of the month!
Deb
September 2, 2012
and that is endlessly exciting…
September 1, 2012
Hey Deb
From the post and comments sounds like this could be a blessing in disguise. You’ve got lots of options. Change can be such a good thing, even it is forced on you.
Looking forward to hearing about your next move!
V.
September 1, 2012
Thanks Vanessa. Yes… I’m planning (and plotting).
Deb
September 2, 2012
Your attitude is fantastic, and inspiring. I’m looking forward to reading about what happens!
September 2, 2012
Thanks Julia. As I’ve said, I have a little plan but am loath to put too much in writing (not because I’m being secretive) but because I’m nervous it won’t happen the way I plan / hope!
Deb
September 2, 2012
Yes, I’ve had several bad experiences (with jobs, even) turn into fantastic opportunities! Looking back, I am REALLY glad for what came of them. You are clever, brilliant, and experienced…there’s nothing to stop you!
September 2, 2012
Oh Karen, thanks for your kind words. I do like to think it’ll be okay and I won’t go running (where, I’m not sure) with my tail between my legs. I want to be brave and follow my dreams and passions for a change. There’s an entire blog post in why that’s so – particularly now – but I really hope you’re right.
Deb
x
September 2, 2012
Hi Deb! You don’t sound too upset (anymore) and I hope if you take the money it’s good money. 🙂
Years ago I made a decision to pursue an academic career – which I gave up at the end of 2011 (my grant ended then). Sadly, my financial situation has gone from bad to worse, and at the moment I can’t say what future will hold for me. Hope it’s something good.
September 2, 2012
The money’s okay Satu, essentially 2weeks of pay for each year of service (I’ve been back in Govt 13 years this time around) plus a few weeks bonus if you agree quickly. Supposedly it’s taxed at a lower rate than usual, then I’ll have a bit of holiday pay etc on top of that (taxed at my usual rate!). I still owe a bit on my mortgage, though this will decrease that of course, but I’ll have to downsize to avoid having a mortgage at all if I want to take some time to think about my work options (and not worry about where the next payment is coming from).
I don’t think I knew that about you (and your work), but you seem very resolute and in control that I’m sure you’ll be fine as well. You have so much going for you!
Deb
September 2, 2012
Deb, I love your mindset on this. You know, I was really hoping for a redundancy offer the year I left my journalism job. They were being offered but I had probably been there too long and was too expensive. So, what did I do? I left anyway. My long-service leave added up to a minor redundancy package and it was very much a now or never moment. I sort of had a plan about what I was going to do but that plan looks nothing like what I’m doing now. I got out of my comfort zone and became more open to opportunities than I had ever been in my “career”.
I cannot wait to see how it all unfolds for you x
September 2, 2012
Thanks Nik. Of course I have a little plan in mind – which I vaguely mentioned via Twitter the other night. But like you I might take a completely different direction.
Deb
September 2, 2012
Mental shifts are so important for reclaiming our lives. And here’s this wonderful mantra:
MAY MY LIFE UNFOLD WITH GENTLENESS AND EASE.
MAY I BE CONTENTED AND PLEASED. XOXO
September 2, 2012
Is that your mantra Julia? The control issue (what I can / can’t and what I try to control) is an interesting one for me…
September 2, 2012
I firmly believe that things like these happen for a reason. Even though I’ve not been reading your blog for long I’ve sensed for a while now that you are on the brim to … something! Can’t explain it better than that, sorry. I was made redundant about ten years ago, unlike you I did not see it coming at all but boy, was I relieved! Through some serendipity I found a new job in a former industry that I loved, so things worked out on that front. BUT I never used that time, or any other opportunity like it, to find out what I REALLY want to do. That’s always been my (perceived) caveat, I don’t have a passion or interest that I would like to convert into a business that can also support me financially. So I keep falling into jobs and while none of them are bad, quite the contrary, I often feel that I should be striving for ‘more’. If you already have an idea of what you might want to do that fills you with passion and opportunity I would say GO FOR IT. There is no doubt in my mind that you have what it takes to do it. Good luck! 🙂
September 2, 2012
I’ve been very much like that Kerstin. My interests feel a bit frivolous / indulgent (writing, reading, TV etc) I’m not sure what career opportunities could come from them. Like you I’ve fallen into jobs and moved about, changing careers quite a bit depending on what opportunities come up.
But for some reason at the moment I’ve been wondering ‘What if this is it?’ And if it is… I’d have a lot of regrets.
It’s good to hear from you and I hope you’ve settled (back) into life in Germany!
Deb
September 3, 2012
Deb, wow! Looking forward to the next move – no engagements at all for me today – I’ve broken my tooth! Here’s to an amazing future for you xx
September 3, 2012
Thanks Liz and hope the tooth gets sorted quickly!
September 3, 2012
Hi Deb! Yes, you have a great attitude. Given our economy in the U.S., I’d be panicked if I lost my job. I do work for myself, but when cases dry up, it is scary to me. I know *many!* people who have had their hours reduced to the extent that their life and budget is very stressed. I don’t even bring this subject up with most people, thinking that they will say something if they want to. Otherwise, we all need to cheer others up.
🙂 Marion
September 3, 2012
Marion, I’ve always thought that people who go into business for themselves are terribly brave. I’ve never been a risk-taker. I’ve changed careers and moved about a lot, but always from one thing to the next. When I worked in ‘aid and development’ I thought about being a private contractor / project manager, but the idea of my income solely resting on my ability to tout for work just wasn’t something I could consider. Most Govt Depts here are shedding 10-15% of staff at the moment.
Deb
September 4, 2017
Something tells me that little light bulb in your head that fizzled & flickered occasionally illuminating your inner hopes & dreams has been switched to it’s on position & taped that way permanently. Looking forward to watching what happens now!!
September 5, 2017
It’s been a few years now and I wish I could say I’ve made the most of it and pursued other things… though I guess that part is true (and I’m happier than I’ve ever been), but I’m probably still a bit afraid. (Full stop… if that makes sense.)
September 4, 2017
Really cool to look back sometimes isn’t it. Sometimes it makes me disappointed in myself as I know I am not where I expected I would be 5 years ago. But different things satisfy me now then they did then.
September 5, 2017
Yes, I’m the same Jess. I guess I do wish I’d made more with the chances I’ve been given since then. I know it isn’t like I hit rock bottom and there was no other direction to bounce, but still…. (and yes, you’re most certainly doing some wonderful things with your life!).
September 4, 2017
You are so right about mindset Deb and although it can be scary this could open up wonderful opportunities. Thanks for writing this as it will inspire others in the same position to use redundancy as a positive. Best wishes and exciting times ahead!
September 5, 2017
Thanks Sue.
September 4, 2017
PS look how far you’ve come in five years!
September 5, 2017
Absolutely!