I feel I’m at a crossroads. I’ve got a bit of crap happening (not all bad, just some changes) and while I’m stoked I’m exercising regularly and haven’t been in that diet / binge (rinse, repeat) cycle, I still bloody well need to lose some weight.
The not-dieting approach is good for someone like me who wonders if life is worth living once things become forbidden, but I’ve got a long way to go until I start eating intuitively. And maybe I’ll never get there.
I was reading a blog post before work yesterday which stayed with me all day. And it’s made me wonder if I need to shift my perspective a little.
At the moment I’m relieved I’ve moved on from dieting / bingeing; to dieting Vs not dieting; but perhaps I’m still coming at this from the wrong angle and need to shift my perspective.
I’m a regular reader of life coach Jenny Blake’s Life After College blog and her own story is very inspiring. Yesterday however, she featured a client who lost a massive 85lbs in 10 months. Even more amazing, Devin set himself exactly that amount of time to achieve the loss. And. He. Did. It.
His guest post wraps up with some advice for the rest of us, including this:
Do not decide to lose weight, gain muscle, or improve performance. That will come later. Decide to change your life.
No lightbulb moment or cathartic thunder bolt, but… thinking back on my recent ‘why I want to lose weight’ post, for me it’s all about losing weight. It’s about how I’ll feel about myself when I’m not-fat and how others will perceive me. I’m not even vaguely thinking about a healthier lifestyle. Nope. No siree.
So, if I’m honest, sure I want to lose weight, but I want to be able to continue to eat crap (ie. whatever I want in an unrestricted way!). I don’t REALLY want to change my habits long term.
I’m obviously very conscious (from a history of yo-yoing weight) that whatever I do has to be sustainable – hence my moving away from the ‘dieting’ mentality and exercise I don’t enjoy or won’t continue for years to come. But… my perspective is all screwy.
I’ve long confessed to being ‘outcome focussed’. I’m all about the end goal: the destination, not the journey. But, when happens when the journey is actually the end goal and the destination a by-product?
And that’s the big question. Do I really want to change my life?!
Are you trying to lose weight or get fitter? Or are you trying to change your life?
Strike that. Reverse it: Named after a quote in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory.